Your thought to ponder for today: a slow read through THE SEER. Day 28. [all material from the book appears in italics]:
Sometimes in my slow read process, I take a day to review a small bit. That’s the idea for today. A reiteration from yesterday. I’m teasing apart a response from Virgil as a way of closing the first loop:
The third recognition is, in fact, just that simple: you are telling yourself a story.
great change is never in the big complicated interventions. It is always found in the simple, the small steps. The actions we need to take are rarely difficult; the story we wrap around the necessary actions make them seem harder than they are.
Virgil: Before we move on, it is important to put together the recognitions so far: You don’t have a problem; you have a pattern. See the patterns in your life.
One of the most important patterns you need to see is your word choice. Your words matter because they are the building blocks of the story you tell.
Are you telling a story of “things happening to you,” or are you telling a story of, “I make things happen.”
The story you tell is revealed through the patterns of your life. Do you see? It is a loop.
More to ponder: In business change, as with personal change, there is a structural level and a circumstance/situational level. Businesses, like people, confuse the two levels, seeking a deep structural change through circumstantial changes (rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic). If you hear, as I often do, “It’s pie in the sky,” be certain that you are hearing avoidance of actually engaging with the structure.
Here’s the simple basic: patterns reveal connections. Problems create separations – and more problems. Language, your word choice, reveals whether you are seeing through problem-eyes or pattern-eyes [note: problem solving is an inevitable attempt to enact structural change on the level of circumstance, to rearrange those deck chairs!]. Before you can see the structure, you have to see the story that you are telling. Stories reveal. Unconscious stories conceal. Pattern change, story change, is much more practical than you might at first understand.
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